How to know if your husband is secretly gay

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I think you are talking about bi- husbands, seriously gay men do not marry several times, they might once if they want children but the the sex stops straight after. Bi's can be very hard to guess, especially if he is a good liar actor. I've known three men that were married with kids but came out as gay subsequently.

Two had a lot of similarities i. The third not. At uni before we got married his friends did do some jokes and rumours about him showering with other man after a match I took it as a joke. When drunk he would have a slightly camp manner and eventually he stopped to drink.

He was very athletic and very much worried about his body and fitness. He would opined too much on my outfits, hair make up and even nails I got the sense he was playing dolls with me. He needed lots of female iends and was a serial cheater and I wondered if he needed to self assure himself of his masculinity.

He made friends with one guy once they did a job together it was a bit secretive and strange he wouldn't talk about it much. He was desperate to have a child with me I didn't give him one he went on to have one with OW. Yes bad tempered at home, life and soul otherwise, a bit of self-doubt and confidence although would hide well.

One night when a bit pissed, one of my gay friends and this was before he came out ruefully described sex with his wife as follows He said it was mechanical rather than pleasurable for him. You mean making sex?? I remember fists time we had sex he was taking glimpses at the TV which made me really upset as he pressurised me whereas I wanted to take things easily.

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Funnily I can't remember much I think was average. I remember one particular day when relationship was bad that after climax he pushed ny body away almost as in disgust but I put it down to him not to be in love with me anymore. He would do oral sex no problem. Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

Did you ever ask him? Does it really matter now if he is gay? He is your exH and you didn't have children together so is he in any way in your life now? It does matter because I'm still hurt but a lot of things that happened when I was with him and still trying to understand a lot.