Should i ask my daughter if she is gay

I apologize for my absence from my blog. It was great! If you want to see a picture, sign up for my newsletter at my home page www. I will post a new question and answer every Monday. My daughter just informed us that she is a lesbian. We are Christians and feel devastated.

We feel so alone. Donna in Connecticut. It is never easy for us as parents when our children make major life choices that differ from our own values and beliefs. Yet, all of us are sinners and all of us sin in many ways. God demonstrates his love towards us in that while we were sinners, Christ died for us Romans That does not mean anything goes and that we do not speak up or set boundaries against sinful behaviors or lifestyles.

That said, what specifically can you do to show truth and grace, love and mercy toward your daughter, and perhaps even her friend? Your daughter must have had enough confidence in her relationship with you as her parents that she opted to be honest with you.

Now ask her if you can be honest with her. You might say something like this:. We are your parents and will always love you no matter what. But we are so sad that you are walking contrary to what God says is best. But we know that God still loves us, even while we still sin.

None of us do. We hope that someday you will realize how much God loves you and you will want to follow him more. Let that sink in some and see how she responds.

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I would pray about the possible positive influence you and your husband can still be in your daughter life as well as with her gay friends. They were outcasts! But Jesus always stopped to minister to the lepers. Let God show you how to turn what Satan meant for evil, into something beautiful for his glory.

Suicide is much higher with homosexuals and trans. They are hurting and are not dealing with the hurt, just burying it. So, Leslie…. Did you choose to be attracted to boys. Of course you didn't.